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Mogalie
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# Posted: 27 Aug 2008 11:13
I've been living in my apt. for a few months now and I just got some new roommates. I already had some nice things up on the walls and the apt. provided us with nice NEW furniture. I am living with guys instead of girls. So I KNOW I have to be prepared for slobs, party guys, loud noises, etc.
I was ok with anything....I thought!
I just met one of my roommates and I do NOT like him! He took all my decorations down and replaced them with his. Including my shower curtain, bath mat, mirrors, lamps, EVERYTHING! He even got rid of the apt. furniture and replaced it with his.... He didn't even ask :-(. And he also replaced my trash can, toilet brush, pots and pans, dishes, kitchen towels, EVERYTHING! It's so odd. I just came home, and it was all changed...
Most guys I know, care nothing for decorating the place. One of the reasons I chose to live with guys is because they don't care how the place looks. So usually I just get to keep all my things up.
I am not saying that I don't want any of his stuff up. I guess I just wish he would have told me, and we could have collaborated on what goes where.
I avoid conflict at ALL cost, so I would rather put up with it, than tell him something. I guess I just wanted to come here to vent. The decor is OK. (Except the star wars poster....) The other roommates don't care either way.
Not to mention he is SOOOO WEIRD! If you talk to him he talks and talks and talks for HOURS! About himself. You can't get a word in there. UGH! I hope he is busy with classes a lot, so I don't have to listen to him talk.
Thanks for listening!
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kaylaaimee
The Little One
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# Posted: 27 Aug 2008 11:23
that is completely bizarre
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staramaze
Model SISter (2815)
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# Posted: 27 Aug 2008 11:24
oh dear! I can tell you this... I don't miss room-mates one bit! it's such a bummer to have to compromise your living space! Stand up for yourself girl! tell him he needs to at least let you have SOME of your stuff up... and to ASK you next time before her touches your stuff!
Get those other roomies to help back you up!
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erinrwillis
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# Posted: 27 Aug 2008 11:27
How weird.
Get those other roomies to help back you up!
Try to nip this in the bud asap. I'm not a huge fan of conflict, either, but with this situation - the sooner it gets fixed, the better.
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metrochic
Favorite SISter (14630)
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# Posted: 27 Aug 2008 11:55
bonnie, that is not normal behavior. for a dude or ANYONE. fah-reaky and RUDE. eep!
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Lollybert
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# Posted: 27 Aug 2008 12:39
ugh, I hate situations like this. RUDE RUDE RUDE. Hang in there.
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ReneeInLA
Style Addict (1231)
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# Posted: 27 Aug 2008 13:32
That is rude and bizarre! It's totally anti-social behavior on his part. Blech. I hate confrontation too, but it might be worth calling a house meeting and setting some mutually agreed-upon groundrules. If this is the way he behaves when first meeting someone, his behavior may only get ruder as he gets more comfortable. I think I'd try to set some boundaries in as non-threatening a way as possible. Hang in there - I know how tough it is having tension at home.
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Nika
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# Posted: 27 Aug 2008 14:36
WOW! How very weird! I sure that he won't pull anymore tricks like that on you.
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YARASAVICH
Vogue SISter (3803)
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# Posted: 27 Aug 2008 14:40
I dont understand.......
What did he DO with the stuff??????
How can he just take people's stuff without saying anything?????
How can he just take the furnishings that were provided and get rid of them????
Wow.......
I wonder how he is going to feel when you start having your all night Crop parties with loud women with sharp scissors running around the place.
Good luck - Stay strong - When all else fails, take all HIS stuff and kick it to the curb........
Maria
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tripletsrajoy
Big SIS (4414)
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# Posted: 27 Aug 2008 14:51
Yah- What did he do with your stuff?
You don't just do that! There are other people living there! That is so strange!
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lydiajane
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# Posted: 27 Aug 2008 15:08
Do you at least have your own room? If so, maybe get a key lock on the door! He sounds very very strange. I lived with 3 guys at one point in college too--woke up one time in the middle of the night to find one of them eating chips and standing over me as I slept. I found another place to live within the week.
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Mogalie
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# Posted: 27 Aug 2008 15:40
I have my own room but the apt hasn't given me a key to it yet, so I can't lock it :-(
I found most of my things in my room.... and a few things in the living room in a pile. The pots and dishes were under the stove. (In that drawer!)
I still haven't found my shower curtain.
Today he hasn't been here all day, thank GOODNESS! I was thinking about saying "oh...did you decorate..?" and seeing what he says.
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JenTexas
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# Posted: 27 Aug 2008 16:23
Maybe his momma bought him all new things for moving out for the first time and he was excited to use them? Or thought you would like his things?
IDK, this is just strange. Some people really have a lot of nerve!
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JamieBoBamie
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# Posted: 27 Aug 2008 17:57
so when he goes out, you put all of your lovely things back up and he can come home to the surprise...
...jk...sort of...not really
i had a really bad roommate last year so i empathize. hope things start to look up.
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divv
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# Posted: 27 Aug 2008 18:53
I hate confrontation too, but I would have politely removed some of his stuff the same way, leaving his things up in certain rooms to be fair. But that is rude to come to a place and just completely remove someone's things without even mentioning it.
And in regards to the things you have not found, I would remind him (nicely of course) that stealing is against the law.
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juljen
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# Posted: 27 Aug 2008 18:59
oh goodness.
that's just all sorts of cooky!
just be careful, whatever you do. :)
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mizzm
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# Posted: 27 Aug 2008 19:34
so when he goes out, you put all of your lovely things back up and he can come home to the surprise...
...jk...sort of...not really
Well it'll give him a taste of his own medicine??!!
Try to nip this in the bud asap. I'm not a huge fan of conflict, either, but with this situation - the sooner it gets fixed, the better.
Ditto!!!
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prairieWillow
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# Posted: 27 Aug 2008 20:13
weird.
and yeah, just more weird.
I would have to say, or do, something.
even if it were just a, "hey, I really liked my shower curtain, oh and by the way...where the heckfire is it??"
weird.
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kitleen
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# Posted: 27 Aug 2008 20:23
bonnie, that is not normal behavior. for a dude or ANYONE. fah-reaky and RUDE. eep
ditto to that!
What did he DO with the stuff??????
and what Maria said. He just REPLACED it? Tell me he didn't get rid of your things!
he sounds anti-social and creepy.
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Mogalie
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# Posted: 27 Aug 2008 20:34
Maybe his momma bought him all new things for moving out for the first time and he was excited to use them?
BINGO!
Well, except, this isn't his first time away from home.
I heard him come in and said..."Did you decorate?"
He said his mom bought him all this really nice stuff.
And BOY was he proud of his decorations. He kept going on and on about how people are going to walk in there and be AMAZED about how good they look. *rolls eyes*
I should have said more, but the only thing I asked was...."Where is my shower curtain?"
It was under the sink :-(
At least I can tell the other roommates can't stand him either.
he sounds anti-social and creepy.
ABSOLUTELY. He has 0 social skills. Not only was he RUDE, but he cannot read people and won't take a hint when we want him to SHUT UP!!!
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tripletsrajoy
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# Posted: 27 Aug 2008 23:26
So can you tell him it's not working out and get rid of him?
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divalicious
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# Posted: 27 Aug 2008 23:30
Oh no he didn't!
What person in the world would just go doing that?
What an @ss!
Damn girl, i would have a major talk with him...
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AnnaB
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# Posted: 28 Aug 2008 04:56
Oh wow, that's freaky... I hope he'll suddenly move out or something...
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xoxojess
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# Posted: 28 Aug 2008 05:14
yeah i would definitely talk to him now. Set up a house meeting. If you don't do it now, you'll end up blowing up and the stituation is going to end up a million times worse. Then there will be war in the house. lol. Speaking from experience here. I'm so glad I don't have to deal with roommates anymore.
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Korbyn
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# Posted: 28 Aug 2008 05:50
serious weirdness there...
It would be one thing to say "hey, can we use some of my stuff" but to just come in and change everything?!?
At least he didn't throw everything out...one of my former roomies did that to me....almost killed her...
hope that you get this figured out so there isn't conflict and so you don't have problems!
xoxo
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TammyGray
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# Posted: 28 Aug 2008 05:59
The problem is what is to come. I agree with the others that you need to do something to confront this, even though you don't want to. It is completely out of line to do what he did. Is he going to take all of your food out of the fridge? It maybe that he is not someone you can live with and you need to start making plans for that now. How did you find him?
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Thinkie
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# Posted: 28 Aug 2008 09:13
fortunately I never had to share an appartement with strangers, only with relatives and hubby. I think I would be a bit scared in a situation like this. here in the Netherlands people that own rental properties and rent to people who have to share it often involve the people already living in it when someone leaves and a new person has to move in. they meet the candidates and pick who can move in, this makes the chance of this kind of thing smaller and is easier for the owner 'cause less trouble amongst renters and he/she doesn't have to go look for a new renter, only has to check if the candidate that was picked has the income to pay the rent. it sounds like this guy was just moved in without you knowing...
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Thinkie
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# Posted: 28 Aug 2008 09:14
forgot to say: good luck!
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CraftyGal
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# Posted: 28 Aug 2008 09:21
OMG! I can't repeat what I would have said to him lol.
Though my way probably wouldn't help the situation. I do agree with others and think that you all should sit down and talk it out. If the other roommates don't like him either they will probably back up your opinion.
He needs to realise that he needs to comprimise. Some of his stuff it allowed but so is yours.
Good luck!
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tia0220
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# Posted: 28 Aug 2008 09:25
That would totally suck! I am sorry you have to deal with that!
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